Alright, let’s get deep for a second. But like, in a fun, no-pressure, let’s-sip-a-cocktail-while-we-think-deep kind of way.
What is it that lights your soul on fire? No, I’m not talking about your love for extra cheese on pizza (though, that’s a vibe too). I mean the stuff that makes you feel like you could conquer the world in 6-inch heels (or flip-flops, we’re not here to judge). The thing that gives you that spark—the kind of spark that makes you want to stand up on a table and scream, “This is me, world!” and be so effing proud of who you are.
What gets you pumped, excited, or in your zone? It could be creativity, dancing, speaking your mind, running a marathon, or even a super specific niche, like collecting rare socks. Whatever it is, it’s YOUR thing.
But here’s the twist: How often are you actually honoring it?
Like, for real. Not just thinking, Yeah, I should totally do that thing someday. But actually carving out time and energy to go after it, to make it happen, to honor it.
If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably let it slide a little. Life gets busy. You’re juggling responsibilities, putting out fires, and maybe even forgetting what day it is. But guess what? When you don’t honor the things that make you you, life feels like that one sock you always lose in the dryer: incomplete.
So how do you stop the endless cycle of ignoring your soul’s calling? How do you light it up and let that fire burn bright? Here’s how to empower yourself and grow your confidence from the inside and out—no soul-crushing Pinterest quote needed.
1. Let Yourself Get A Little Messy
You know how you always feel like you have to have it all figured out? Nope. Not today. Just start. Whatever your soul is calling you to do—start. Even if you’re bad at it at first. Especially if you’re bad at it at first. That’s how growth happens. There’s no straight line to confidence, just a lot of twists, turns, and occasional faceplants. And guess what? That’s okay. You’re still moving forward, and that’s the real power move.
2. Dance Like No One’s Watching (Even if They Are)
And I’m not talking about some small, shy wiggle in your seat. I mean full-on, abandon-yourself-to-the-music type of dancing. When you let loose, you feel free. When you feel free, you’re more likely to take risks. When you take risks, you get closer to those soul-lit moments that you crave. Whether it’s actual dancing or metaphorical dancing in your life—move with confidence, even if you’re faking it at first. Pretty soon, you’ll stop faking it and start owning it.
3. Trust Your Gut (It’s Smarter Than You Think)
Here’s the truth: Your intuition knows a whole lot more than your overthinking brain. That little voice inside that says, Hey, you should totally try that thing—listen to it! It's like that friend who always knows the best hidden spots in the city. If something excites you, gives you that little spark, go for it. Empower yourself by trusting that inner compass. That’s where the magic is.
4. Get Rid of the “Shoulds”
The shoulds are soul-suckers. “You should be more organized.” “You should wear more neutrals.” “You should spend all your time doing things that other people tell you will make you successful.” No. Just no.
What if you didn’t should on yourself? What if you made a habit of saying yes to what truly feels right? Imagine the energy you’d free up! Empowering yourself means ditching the expectations and focusing on what makes you feel good. Because guess what? When you feel good, you shine. And that kind of confidence is magnetic.
5. Give Yourself Permission to Be a Beginner
Here’s the deal: confidence doesn’t just appear. You gotta work for it. But that doesn’t mean you need to be perfect. Start small, fail a little, laugh a lot, and try again. Each time you get back up, you’re building your confidence from the inside out. And if you need to fake it a little in the beginning? Go ahead. Confidence loves a good charade.
6. Celebrate Every Little Win
Did you finish that project? Celebrate. Did you sign up for that class you’ve been thinking about? Celebrate. Did you trip walking across and room and instead of getting down on yourself you laughed at yourself? Celebrate. Seriously. No win is too small. Every time you honor what lights you up, you’re growing. You’re growing your confidence, your sense of self, and your life’s direction. So celebrate it like you just won the lottery of self-love.
7. Stop Waiting for Permission
Here’s the final nugget of wisdom: You don’t need anyone else’s permission to live your truth. No one. Not your boss. Not your friends. Not society. Not your partner. When you decide that you’re going to honor what calls your soul, the universe (or at least your reflection in the mirror) will back you up.
So what would happen if you really leaned into it? What would happen if you started saying yes to the things that light your fire and no to everything that dims it?
Here’s what: You’d get more confident, inside and out. You’d start living the life you deserve—one that’s full of purpose, excitement, and a whole lot less “should.” You’d show up for yourself, and that kind of energy? That’s contagious.
Now, go on. Find your spark. Honor it. Let it burn. Because when your soul is lit up, there’s nothing that can stop you.
Got questions or need a little pep talk? I’m always here to help you fan those flames.
Glow get it,
Kate